THE WALKING DEAD F*ceBook ACCOUNT | SPECTATIN' and SPECULATIN' 1

THE WALKING DEAD F*ceBook ACCOUNT | SPECTATIN' and SPECULATIN' 1 bret harold hart

VIDEO LINK: https://youtu.be/5m-3P_I-wl8 Why?, Whuffo?, and Howcum? are better community puzzles to solve in Life than Whodunnit?....circuitously detailing my effort to exit a fraught and often ineffective 15yr social networking learning-curve, while sitting in an old cemetery. ---------------- 0:00 all right well good afternoon this is Bret 0:06 again uh spectating and speculating and 0:14 uh doing my best to keep out of the way of what ought to be going 0:23 on I'd rather let it happen and what I want to talk about 0:30 right now is the whole incredible experience I've had mostly not 0:38 enjoyable um in trying to First deactivate and later 0:47 delete a Facebook account that I'd had for about I don't 0:53 know I think maybe 2 three years into Facebook 1:00 finally caved and saw that it was maybe a viable way to be in touch with people that 1:07 are too impatient to talk to you on the phone uh or too 1:13 busy and uh because that's just the way things have gone in my 66 years is that 1:21 you know I was raised by people that weren't just readers but who enjoyed it 1:26 were kind of acious about it you know many magazine subscriptions and uh you 1:35 know grocery store Encyclopedia set in the living room and uh you know boxes of 1:43 National Geographic Magazines in the basement on a shelf and uh that's the 1:49 kind of people that I was raised by and around and I'm still a 1:57 reader but Lord knows I barely ever hold printed media 2:03 that I'd have any interest in Reading 2:08 anymore and um you know over the years here up in 2:17 New England middle Massachusetts 2:24 uh hell all the way back to the high school newsletter and art 2:31 magazines we had back in the 70s mid 2:36 70s I was a writer and I guess you could call all of that journalism and I I 2:42 suppose you could call what I'm doing today journalism and I'm just kind of like that Silver Surfer you 2:49 know I'm just kind of riding whatever most 2:55 recent uh tool for Comm 3:00 communication um that comes along and some of them are 3:05 very brief fattish kind of things that vanish real fast you know like the laser 3:13 disc and um and the eight track tape for sure and 3:19 then we got I don't know now there seems to be a 3:26 return to analog recording as though people have run they're feeling 3:34 nostalgic and uh wanting to sound like the old days when things sounded like 3:40 the stuff that the digital Music Revolution thought it was solving the problems 3:47 of Journalism well anyway so I tried to leave I tried to deactivate myself from 3:53 Facebook and delete myself from Facebook when um I don't know I I really hate to 4:00 name names because sometimes you name a name and it's like a frecking mental force field flies up and and and F some 4:09 folks can't even listen to the next syllable they're already formulating a a 4:17 way to enact Justice on you for what you just said even though it was an incomplete thought and um yeah you know 4:25 so forget about names you know forget about names 4:30 labels names stuff like that uh but I made a decision after many 4:36 years of really having a lot of failed relationships begin and end um and I 4:42 don't mean uh you know you know what I mean professional relationships music art uh and when I was a teacher at one 4:50 point there was even a sort of a local encouragement to use social media to 4:55 connect with the parents of your students if you wish and of course we were for bidden to um communicate with 5:03 the kids we taught online that was just a hard and fast Rule and I agree with it 5:08 um but there was a period of time and I suppose it persists uh when parents use 5:15 social media rather than phone calls or direct emails um to express stuff you know to 5:23 teachers and back and forth I remember that that was not fun 5:30 um and I would say that the first time that I very nearly left Facebook was during the time when I was still 5:36 teaching at the middle school level uh in the Arts and we were at the Apex like the 5:44 baby boom of that kind of thing going on with Facebook being the main conduit you 5:50 know and for reasons that I won't speculate about um because I'm just 5:57 going to take her at a word my wife really was beginning to have a problem um with a number of the uh mothers of 6:05 several of the kids I taught and I was you know I've been here long enough that 6:13 I taught the children of kids I taught okay so I've taught entire generations 6:19 of children you know I could name a lot of families that I taught all three of 6:25 the children all three of the daughters both of the sons you know that 6:31 kind of thing and I've I've even worked with my ex- students and stuff as you know in 6:39 education it was pretty cool interesting I got a deep look you know teaching 6:44 thousands of kids and dealing with where they came from you 6:49 know but um my wife was beginning to have issues with 6:55 uh I suppose the frequency and really lack of urgency from her 7:02 perspective with which some of these women um 7:09 were wanting to be in communication with me and I really couldn't argue with her 7:14 um because I get a lot of I'd say that eight out of 10 7:21 texts or emails or even Facebook comments or notifications that I ever 7:28 got eight out of 10 there was no point in them ever having been sent they communicated nothing 7:35 usually they communicated well they didn't communicate nothing they communicated vanity um or narcissism and I started to 7:43 actually get caught up in that you know who was it I think Kurt vonet said we are if somebody wants to know what a 7:50 person is like look at the five people they spend the most time with and kind 7:55 of do an average of those five people and you'll get the sixth one and 8:02 um you know Kurt vonet was the kind of author that would make you think about 8:07 something for the rest of your life and uh that's one lens through which I look at people and families and stuff like 8:14 that but anyways uh to get back on point I digress I'm sorry 8:21 um she one day had 8:27 a uh completely in hindsight I'm saying this I don't think I handled it very 8:33 well at the time um no I didn't handle it very well at the time I got defensive 8:39 about uh my uh right to since there wasn't any weird [ __ ] going on uh oops 8:46 I'm have to delete that too and she knows this we both know this in hindsight there wasn't any weirdness 8:52 going on but as women do really if they're 8:58 right-minded um they're going to guard their relationship with the person they 9:04 married and I'm glad my wife does I don't know if I like her methods um but 9:10 I'm really glad that she uh is capable of 9:17 um she claims what is her right and her right is The Vow that I made when I 9:23 married her and I'm not going to argue with that it in fact it's never failed us 9:30 her getting her getting her throwing up a fence right quick um is always a good 9:36 idea and she said at at that time this is a long time ago my God this is like 9:42 12 years ago maybe I want you to delete every single female friend you got on Facebook that I 9:49 don't know [Music] personally and I asked her how come and 9:56 she said because if they if they want to be friends with you they well better be ready to want to be friends with me 10:02 too okay we're like kind of a a a set here you 10:08 know and uh so I did 10:13 that and um I don't believe I even accompanied the act of doing it with any 10:19 kind of explanatory post I think I just went in there in order to 10:25 avoid um 10:31 what could come and just did a mass bye-bye kind of 10:36 thing and you know a whole lot of it was with people that to be honest with you I maybe had only had a back and forth with 10:43 for over the course of the N9 months or less that I taught their child and then 10:49 we never had another communication after that like they might have at one point reached out to me via Facebook because 10:55 they had a question or something and we ended up um you know friend request 11:01 exchange kind of thing going on like that but I went and did in one Fell Swoop and I think I knocked 11:07 about maybe 125 ladies um right out of the right out 11:13 of the right out of the tool as it were and 11:18 um a couple of them got really pissed about it which she found very 11:24 interesting and and in hindsight I find interesting in also that some other 11:31 person might bring their opinion about um how a man and a woman 11:39 agree um to respect one another uh as though their Viewpoint could make that 11:45 change um but anyway so there's there was an early like okay it's time it's 11:51 time to make a boundary happen here in in this in this so-called networking social networking 11:58 stuff and and uh so then you know time goes by uh I pass in and out of several 12:06 recording groups um one of which was led by a woman uh well at least she was the 12:12 uh The Lyricist and singer in the group and um myself and a u a man who is um 12:21 very accomplished on uh keyboards and and woodwind instruments primarily and 12:28 when I say woodwind instrument I mean from uh baritone Sachs to harmonica okay 12:35 um and during those professional musical 12:43 business um the durations of those um 12:48 Adventures um some women ended up back in Facebook 12:55 as friends as well as I'm I'm not going to ex I'm not going I'm going to be very 13:00 conservative as well as possibly maybe 200 people who I frankly never got to know 13:08 in any way shape or form that mattered to me very much except that they 13:15 purchased an album uh that I played on for which I might have 13:21 made a dollar but anyways I'm you know I'm appreciative I always thank people for 13:26 these things and stuff but you know when somebody's buying something that's not something on which to base a lifelong 13:32 relationship that's kind of stupid um so I ended up with what I will call a whole bunch of barnacles sort of 13:39 business Barnacles uh on my in my Facebook uh friends and 13:50 when I don't know when when one of those musical Adventures one of those groups 13:56 fell apart well basically I I exited the band and 14:02 it was a trio so you know 33% gone I exited it for reasons that I felt 14:09 were righteous and it there was Carnage that immediately followed it was like an 14:15 earthquake occurred within this sort of extremely underground but pretty large 14:22 realm in music that I was operating in at that time many ways still 14:30 do and I just realized that I need to give that ship a good scraping um because of all of these 14:38 various names that connect my memory and my thoughts to something that I'd really 14:44 rather not think about anymore and so once again I went in and did another one of these great 14:51 unfriending H I'll call it what it is because we W well I don't know we weren't friends we were they were 14:59 customers and in some cases they were musicians who um might use another 15:06 person as a ladder in order to get someone that they'd like to work with in 15:13 music I felt a lot of the The Souls of a lot of weird boots going right up my 15:19 back um between myself and someone that 15:25 uh I don't know seemed kind of like overly willing 15:31 to um well they were engaging in a lot of flattery and stuff like that and I I 15:38 don't like that stuff that it bounces off of me there there's a difference between constructive feedback and and 15:44 and and uh flattery When someone tells me like 15:50 everything you're doing is fabulous I really immediately don't trust them because I know it isn't um it could not 15:58 be uh part of how I roll is that I don't hide flaws in the 16:05 process um you know this goes across every kind of art that I'm involved in it's it's it's AR it's immediate it's 16:13 finite it's undecorated it doesn't have a lot of 16:18 makeup on it um it's a immediate grabbing of the moment in 16:26 which the thing is being made and I try to make things I'm not the kind of guy that 16:32 works on a painting for years I'm the kind of guy that spends an entire week 16:38 of 10hour days working on one and getting it done 16:44 um so anyways I scraped the Barnacles off of the uh progressive rock uh realm 16:51 uh that had infiltrated I allowed him to I opened 16:56 the window and the vampire came in you know know but anyways uh let's see where 17:02 we getting with our time here I sure hope this thing's still recording it is we're good um but anyways uh so then I 17:11 did another big old scraping and then last year and I've 17:16 been playing music live locally not doing recording projects or 17:21 getting in bands or anything like that for probably about the last I don't know five years or so 17:29 and that's the way I like it I probably only get out and play four times a month that's plenty I'm playing with people I 17:36 enjoy being around and um you know at a place that I like being in 17:44 uh but last Autumn uh I think it was in November possibly 17:51 December I know it was after Halloween anyways the anniversary of Noah Noah's 17:58 Arc begin beginning and the the flood kicking off that's Halloween for those that like to look stuff up that other 18:04 people have said it is Halloween is weird memorializes 18:12 catastrophe I decided that I didn't want to be on Facebook anymore and the reason why was because having been in the Navy 18:19 for as long as I was doing spook work I'm kind of uh I have a healthy 18:27 paranoia when there is a real reason to be paranoid about something yeah you know um a lot a lot of things that are 18:35 bad are hidden Right In Plain Sight and sometimes you see it and um it makes you 18:41 wonder and and I'm not someone who jumps to conclusions quickly but when I feel a 18:46 lot of dots are being connected around a a certain theme uh I put that theme in a folder in my head and uh just you 18:55 know remember that I have that folder in case something else another dot appears 19:00 as it were and um I made a decision that um from almost a personal you know you 19:06 hear about National Security right and I started to think about it might be a good idea for me not only to uh use it 19:14 less which I've gone through phases of um but to 19:19 just stop and and and just you know I've 19:24 created the you know people have their personal Facebook page but artists and 19:30 musicians and business and stuff you know they set up these adjacent Pages uh 19:37 in order to promote something right and and I was quite vigorous about that I had at least two different 19:45 pages um which sold my paintings and art and stuff and you know a person could go 19:51 there and look at these pictures and so forth in fact two days ago a local woman 19:56 contacted me because she'd seen some of my work and she tried to contact me 20:02 through Facebook and I didn't receive the notification but anyways um but a friend 20:08 saw her comment and called me up and told me and we've connected and so it's kind of cool that uh I might possibly 20:14 make a sale uh she wants me to do a painting of her home I can do that I've done it before I decided to get off 20:21 Facebook the first thing I did was I deactivated it according to the procedure that says this is how you do 20:28 that that and I will say right now that Facebook doesn't make it easy for you to 20:33 get out it really does not okay and then shortly thereafter um I 20:41 upped it to the delete after I had given myself time to be mindful about the 20:48 consequences of deleting my Facebook account okay and if 20:55 I delete my Facebook account that means I can no longer laun in and moderate uh 21:03 other Pages I'll call them commercial Pages um that I had out there for music 21:09 and art and stuff and uh events and so forth like it's almost as though you've 21:16 you know you're being towed Along by a ship in your own little boat and you are 21:21 cutting the rope that connects you to that ship the bigger one that you built but 21:27 you kind of willing to let that just kind of sail away uh like a lot of the stuff that you find you know if you know 21:35 about archive.org if you use their way back machine you can find stuff that 21:40 that that was once on domains that no longer exist and I'm kind of willing to 21:46 let some of my stuff go off into that ether um not really trusting that it 21:51 will be preserved but that it might be and I don't care I'm a res I can 21:57 untether from those things I don't even have those things to sell anymore who cares right bye I also knew that I was 22:05 going to probably have to um find a new way to 22:12 communicate to replace the Facebook messenger chat box which I think most 22:19 people find them useful locally for some reason I don't know and I I had found it 22:26 I just find Facebook to be a generally crappy way to communicate anything that 22:32 you want to get feedback about or attendance to unless you are 22:38 already a celebrity of sorts or independently um economically 22:45 independent you know what I'm saying and not caught up in 22:51 uh monetary dependencies that involve other people uh and I made the hard decision 22:58 that yes I'm going to let go of that and I know that this is going to disconnect me from photographs that I no longer 23:04 have I no longer have and then I remembered that I 23:09 actually did a dump uh of my Facebook 23:15 media just a couple years ago and that I actually do have most of the photographs 23:22 I've taken since then and that was the thing that made me say okay fine I'm 23:27 going to actually delete this account and let it go away make it vanish when somebody looks for it it ain't there and 23:34 that was at the end of November around the beginning of December all right so what happened 23:41 right after that was I started getting these funny messages that I hadn't gotten before that were saying hey did 23:48 you Lo someone logged into Facebook using your account in such such a 23:55 location you know and it might have been in Charlotte North 24:01 Carolina right or uh Boone North Carolina now these people are too far 24:08 away to be hacking my my Wi-Fi right and 24:13 the first couple of times that happened I'm like what's up with that 24:19 like you do and like I did I don't anymore but 24:24 anyway so I I I went for the bait on the 24:30 hook that was dangling right there that someone's messing with you know your communication 24:38 tools and guess what happened as soon as I clicked on that 24:44 thing up came a thing that said that to proceed to The Next Step you'll need to 24:49 log in I don't think of myself as a stupid person 24:56 okay I'm ignorant about a lot of stuff but I'm not stupid I clicked that damn 25:02 button to go find out if somebody was in my stuff okay they weren't they weren't 25:12 I never found a explanation for why that occurred okay cuz I wasn't driving out of network or anything like that when 25:18 that was going on so I don't get it so what I'm guessing is it it's part of the 25:23 game right so then what I did was create a filter to make those kind kind of 25:28 messages not get to my inbox just poof go away all 25:34 right months pass I know that if I go to in order to 25:40 check whether or not my Facebook account isn't 25:46 there I have to have a I'll have to log in to find out and I 25:53 know what happened before so several months go by here we are on the middle of March and I don't log into Facebook 26:00 never a couple more of those did you log in I they sneak through they get past 26:07 the filter I I spam them and get them right out of there okay so just a couple days ago this is 26:14 the funny part for me our older daughter's over at the house and we're hanging out on the porch right drinking 26:21 coffee and uh smoking cigarettes I say do me a 26:27 favor anyway no I don't go in there and see if 26:34 you can get to my Facebook account because as far as I know it shouldn't be there and I don't 26:42 want to be the one to look okay you got a Facebook account and of course we've been Facebook friends go see if my 26:49 account's still there and so she picks up her phone 5 seconds later she goes yeah it's 26:55 still there she holds it up and shows to me and I'm like damn it and I just do 27:02 not get it okay I just don't get 27:08 [Laughter] it so on me 27:16 right this is called the devil's tennis so anyways I'm smoking these 27:23 inexpensive crowns Menthol Lights they're all we can afford down here in 27:28 this tobacco State anyways 27:34 um that's another video all together so I am just racking my 27:43 mind and tin and I are watching a movie last night this apocalyptic thing called 27:50 How It Ends from about six years 27:56 ago with ad so during one of the ads I push the mute 28:02 button and I say hey h h how do you I haven't used 28:07 Facebook at all for months I just don't get it I say this to my 28:13 wife and she goes well I use it sometimes and I 28:20 go what do you mean and she says that our 28:26 friend who um is a great teacher and just a lovely lady and and she's um she's really fond 28:36 of Tina's crocheting work and and has actually found all kinds of great ways 28:41 that Tina can can crochet things and and uh you know them get the people that would enjoy them and stuff you know so 28:48 anyways she says well you know like when Shen sends me something that you know like I should check out you know like a 28:54 pattern or something and I said yeah but and this is when the light bulb came on 29:02 I said you've never had a Facebook account you flat out refused for years 29:09 to have a Facebook account I said you don't even have an email address I 29:14 said don't you understand what you what you what's happened 29:20 here so funny to me I said you kept me 29:27 in Facebook each time you looked at something that 29:32 somebody said hey look at this and it was on Facebook you know on some 29:37 crocheting group page or something you use my email to log into 29:44 my Facebook page in order to have access to viewing that thing and she's 29:50 goes oh oh and then her light bulb came on 29:58 I'm really proud of her for never getting caught up in this junk I'm telling you you know like this is the kind of this is ignorance is bliss you 30:06 know she's never been on any of that Facebook stuff and whenever she uh someone else sends her there to look at 30:12 something it generally causes aggravation and I wouldn't have it any other way so anyways so the mystery of 30:19 the the you know The Walking Dead Facebook account why won't it just die 30:25 um has been solved and she went in and did a for stop on uh the uh app in her 30:32 phone right so that she uh won't be tempted ever again and I asked her also 30:38 if she would be so kind as to communicate to Shannon that please don't send me any Facebook links but anyways 30:45 so I'm I'm saying that here you know my good friends know even the even the ones 30:50 who never like or comment on my videos I see how many views there are I know what's going on out 30:56 there but anyways uh you know that you know Facebook wasn't fun either um it 31:02 did sell a bunch of records though so that's cool so pretty soon I think I'm 31:08 going to be able to actually shoot the head off of The Walking Dead Facebook account you know it'll stay down 31:18 right so you know I hope I don't have to make another video about uh on this 31:24 subject and this video is all oh Lord this recordings all the way up to 33118 so I better give it a stop